Are you chasing what you want or someone else’s dreams?

Are you chasing what you want or someone else’s dreams?

Wayne led his team in tackles. He competed at the top of his class. Everyone wanted to be around him, except his dad.

His dad had business meetings, charity events, and other “very important things.” Wayne asked for his dad to come to his games. His dad said, “Why go to kids; game? It’s not even college ball.” 

Wayne trained twice as hard. He became a university athlete. But his dad didn’t come. 

Many years later Wayne had a great profession, family, and assets. Wayne didn't feel accomplished, he felt empty. In our work, he recognized, those were his dad's dreams too.

You waste your whole life chasing what others want and never know it

High performers chase things down, figure things out and make them happen. Yet, at the end of the day, feel empty. If your accomplishments don’t seem to matter, your self-worth may be based on pleasing others.

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Psychology Concept of the Week

People pleasing is the result of growing up in a family where the child had to deserve conditional love.  People pleasers are typically high performers with a strong work ethic. people-pleasers have an excessive compulsion to be liked and appear likable. This tendency impedes their ability to influence results

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How to overcome approval seeking 

1. Know that approval equals survival in our DNA

2. Being present so that your senses can clarify what you need in the moment

3. Become comfortable with uncertain situations

4. Follow your plan and passion instead of trying to please others

5. Clarify your purpose. Make it your guide.

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Be well my friend

Dr. Drew Carr